What I Learned When My Daughter Needed Space from Me
I choose to heal for these kids and for myself.
Every day, I will return to the work.
Every day, I will soften.
Every day, I will become more nurturing and more loving in all my interactions.
I believe this is possible.
If any of this resonated, I’ll be sharing the practices I’m using along the way. Use whatever helps. Reach out with questions. You’re not doing this journey alone.
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A Child of God
I just finished the bottle of sleeping pills or muscle relaxers or something. Anything to just sleep and not feel. This is not an easy thing to admit but it’s an important detail to share because this was the Quantum moment that changed everything for me. I had said I was all in on my practice before but the whole entire move I relied on my head to plan and control every detail and when they would fail, I would pray and rely on guidance. The guidance would come and I would be “rescued” in some way but I always had this knowing that there had to be a better way. I had to stop crashing into these deep dark holes where I became more and more tempted by the permanent relief of death. In that moment, I prayed. I prayed for an answer. I prayed to know why. I SCREAMED at God, the Holy Spirit, my mom in heaven, anyone who would be listening. “If it’s true” I shouted and cried, “if it’s all true”, then “SHOW ME!! TELL ME WHY I CAN’T GO!!
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Releasing the Inner Warrior
HOLDING ON
A huge part of finding serenity in our lives is accepting this impermanence. It’s unsettling to think that this is all we can really do about it. We can’t bring back yesterday. We can’t control things to stay in the state of what we perceive to be perfection. In fact, coming to terms with the fact that nothing is permanent will only serve as a fuel to enjoy the next moment all the more deeply. Precious memories are tucked away within our minds; but this never seems to be quite the same as the sensory pleasure of the moment itself.
The Courage to Leave
When we finally make the decision to accept that a situation will not change, to acknowledge that we have the power to leave, and to finally move on from that very situation that has broken us, it can feel as though we are falling off of a cliff! We resist the groundlessness that we feel and grip to anything we can in order to feel the comfort of the earth beneath our feet. We resist the pain and anxiety that comes with a major live change and tell ourselves any number of stories so that we can just avoid feeling it.
Create Your Future with Intention
Two thousand and seventeen wasn’t the first year that I felt as though I was suffocating by life, but it was certainly the first time that I felt as though I had absolutely no choice but to make a change. I simply was not capable of continuing to go on the way that I was living. If you’re curious about some of those early emotions, you can read some of my early blog posts.
You Matter
Repeat after me, “I matter”. And so if you matter (and I’m here to tell you with 100% certainty that you DO), then what is that one thing that you need to do for you. What is the one thing that you’ve known that you needed but you haven’t taken any steps to make it happen because there are a thousand reasons why you feel you shouldn’t expect it, or want it, or need it.
Walking Upright
When I moved home to New Brunswick, my family quickly got a glimpse at how bad my back pain had become over the years. There were many things that I should have been able to do that I simply was not able to any longer. Many basic tasks left me keeled over in pain for hours or in bed with muscle relaxers that left me groggy and frustrated for days.
Looking back
Nearly a year has passed since Mya left her abusive relationship and started fresh in a new home with her twin boys. It's also been nearly a year since I made the decision to move my family away from a life we'd finally built in Carleton Place, ON after the realization that I would soon be medically released from the military.
Don't cry over spilled milk
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Coping Through Connection
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Freedom from Suffering
I have recently gone mad and separated from my inner guide. It was not a waste though. I learned some very valuable lessons. Among them, some of the most powerful lessons in A Course in Miracles that I had not yet been able to fully appreciate or experience at my core.
The Sound of Serenity!
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A Surrender to Imperfection
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